“I finally feel grounded, calm and balanced”
L.V., 30, filmdirector
Healing in the City truly transformed my life. Previously, I was constantly battling a storm of thoughts and impulses that often overwhelmed me. Despite years of trying various traditional therapies, the inner turmoil persisted. Fay changed that.
Fay, the driving force behind Healing in the City, takes a unique and personal approach that gave me a feeling of trust/confidence during each session. From the very first session with Fay, I noticed a difference, an inner peace that only grew throughout the trajectory. I now feel much more connected to my body, act from my own feelings instead of my thoughts and feel more comfortable in my own skin than ever before!
Thanks to Healing in the City, I finally feel grounded, calm and balanced. My gratitude is immense and I encourage everyone to give themselves this gift and experience the amazing results.
“I feel more ease with things, less black and white”
L.G., 32, entrepreneur
After the healing I felt good, encouraged to be brave, and so I made a list of areas where I’ve been compromising and I’ve taken action to either stop them or make a change there. And I did the same with the contrary, with areas where I am not taking action/ where I’m waiting and not opening the door for more excitement and now I’m taking action there as well. I also feel more ease with things, less black and white, more letting myself and things flow. Somehow things feel synchronized with life.
“A big step towards feeling more in control and aware of yourself”
G.L., 30, entrepreneur
Joining Fay's trajectory took me on an unexpected deep dive into understanding myself and healing. It was a personalized program that really got into the heart of my issues, guiding me through change with a lot of care and detail.
Every meeting with Fay opened up a new chapter of getting to know and heal myself. We started by tackling my habit of avoiding certain tasks, like my weekly admin work that I kept putting off, which was causing me financial issues. Fay helped me connect with my body to work through the feelings behind my procrastination.
The next week, we looked into my habits of reaching for distractions or things I was “too into”. Fay guided me to listen to what my body was trying to say. She helped me understand how to better use intense peak moments, where a lot of energy and excitement can go into one task, and how to leverage it.
Getting over past relationships was another big step in my healing, and doing this with Fay's kind support made a huge difference. This wasn't just any session; it felt like a major turning point for me, especially because we met in person at her place for this.
Then, we focused on building up my self-love, worth, and respect. This session was all about seeing myself in a better light and understanding that any changes I want to make must come from loving myself. Also, she helped me to accept and understand that also I have toxic traits, but instead of “curing” them, we looked into how to live with them.
Our last session was about leading myself and not just being pushed around by what happens in life. Fay got me to make a vision board for my goals, which was about setting my sights on what's important to me.
Fay's trajectory wasn't just a bunch of meetings; it was a thoughtfully put-together journey to help me grow in many ways. Her power for noticing when my mind wandered and bringing my focus back was key. Her warmth, mixed with fun moments and sharing personal stories, made me feel really comfortable and open.
If you're thinking about joining Fay's trajectory go for it. It's a deep dive into your emotions and a big step towards feeling more in control and aware of yourself. Fay's trajectory is all about healing in a way that's just right for you, and I can't recommend it enough. I will be using her tips and tricks to channel people and energy in the future when life becomes too much again.
Thanks to Fay for not just the guidance, but also for the laughs, empathy, and understanding she shared. I'm truly thankful for every bit of it.
“I’m truly amazed at the strides I have been able to make”
G.C., 31, entrepreneur
I got in touch with Fay after struggling with ADHD symptoms: difficulty keeping appointments, a lot of unrest in my head, a lot of self-criticism and resistance to making and following a schedule. I also endlessly postponed simple tasks such as doing laundry, and waited until the very last moment to do many things. This caused even more stress, making “keeping overview” more and more difficult.
The trajectory was 5 intensive sessions in which we really got to the root cause of my symptoms, and here we went into a lot of depth. What I liked about Fay as a coach is that she has a no nonsense approach, and she sorts everything out in detail and works with you. At the moments when I sometimes strayed or wasn't quite there, Fay noticed this immediately.
I am now several weeks further away from the trajectory and I am truly amazed at the strides I have been able to make thanks to these sessions. My critical voice has diminished considerably, leaving more room to think clearly. My fear of failure has also diminished considerably. Moreover, I notice that daily tasks such as laundry evoke considerably less resistance from me and I am more aware of this. This allows me to enjoy my days with more peace of mind and more relaxation instead of climbing the proverbial mountain every day. All in all, I am very satisfied and also immensely grateful to Fay for her efforts and facilitating these sessions.
“My experience at that table felt supernatural”
R.S., 33, screenwriter and director (report of 5 sessions for adhd and severe depression)
From flirting with suicide to self-leadership
I sought help for three years, especially for my ADHD, but I was unable to find good help from any mental health practice or therapist and was constantly put on a waiting list. Several times I stopped my search because of this, but in the meantime I slipped deeper and deeper into a downward spiral and at the end of 2023 I reached a new low. Working, exercising, cooking or washing dishes were activities that I could no longer manage. Every attempt I made to get back on track, led to even more disappointment. For weeks I stayed in bed, wandering aimlessly around the house, and...I binge watched series after series. Suicidal thoughts were common and offered me a sense of peace. Deep down I didn't really want to die, but I felt desperate, extremely desperate and lacking in confidence myself, and with it the hope for an 'okay' future, completely lost.
I saw Fay's offerings on Facebook. Honestly, I couldn't imagine anyone without a psychology study would know what to do with my persistent and difficult problems, but I thought: it might not help, but at least it will not be harmful to try. During our introductory meeting, that feeling of skepticism diminished somewhat. I liked her views on ADHD, they were stimulating and fresh, and the things she said 'resonated' (as she would say) with thoughts I had and issues I was struggling with. During the first online session I was introduced to her treatment method, where feeling and visualizing play an important role. This method forms the basis of the sessions. The intensity of the the first session brought out a lot of pain, and sometimes I was unable to fully surrender to it. It made me anxious and insecure. Fay assured me that this was a normal part of the process and she did her best to give me a sense of security. Still, I was glad the session ended. She also assured me that that was normal.
During our second session I was very tired; the night before I had let myself go to sleep with a bottle of wine and had not slept until the morning. This was possibly due to dealing with a lot of traumatic issues in the first session, which I had released, and I felt a lot of resistance for the second session. I took that resistance and fatigue with me into the session and eventually, after a little mental breakdown from me, we decided together to discontinue the session.
The following days I doubted a lot whether I should continue with the sessions or not, but the alternative was back into the shit, so I decided to go for it. I strained myself to be as fresh and clear as possible with the retake of session which was more about resistance and less about trauma and such. I learned there that all the things that were making my life difficult were parts of me and that I was not "the problem" myself. I literally took parts of myself out of me and gave them “a chair” in space, with a voice. The parts were given space, love, understanding and recognition, which apparently was much needed, because Holy Moly: I felt better and better as the session went on.
Partly because I had to give space to the heaviness by feeling it out completely, after which I felt so much lighter! Something really started to change. Fay also felt the feelings with me, which helped as we were both going through the same experience. From that moment I knew that I no longer had to doubt about whether or not to continue. The contact with Fay now also felt completely familiar and good. I really had the idea that she understood me and all the things that were going on and if she misunderstood something, it was easily put right.
During this session we also drew up a to-do list together with mini-tasks for the next 3 days: I had to clean up my desk and room, pack my gym bag, and prepare some food, compose a to-do list with all the things I needed to do for my projects, all with the webcam on. Fay smoothly guided me through this, making the ever-so-tricky beginning, so to speak. After this, she continued to apply her method of externalizing parts in me until I could answer yes to the question "do you feel like working out?" That with that the session lasted much longer than usual was not an issue for her at all.
Immediately after this session I went to the gym, for the first time in 3 months and with pleasure too, and it was already quite late. I felt good and was amazed that after such a long period of heaviness and lethargy I felt like doing something again and had started to move.
The next day I fell back into old patterns, lying in bed a lot, and so on. But the day after that I went out with confidence and exercised again. I felt good, until a stupid little thing happened with someone at the gym (which, by the way, was no big deal, but still made my new sense of self-confidence collapse like a house of cards).
Fortunately, that same day I had another session with Fay, which at her suggestion we scheduled shortly after the last session. The incident became a useful input for the session, which was all about self-love. A timing that couldn't have been better. In the previous session we took away the heaviness; in this session I charged up, so to speak, which may sound strange, but I really experienced it that way. Also some beautiful/ mysterious stuff happened during the session, but I will keep this review down-to-earth.
After this session it really went uphill, better and better. Occasionally I still had a down day, but I accepted that without slipping further.
The following days I could start with renewed energy and fresh courage, I could handle much more than usual, and I slowly began to function again. Instead of my usual tendency to want to do everything at once (only to get stuck again and get nothing done), I now took small steps.
I also consciously chose not to do too much in a day. It felt as if I was gradually gaining more and more control over my own life, something I may never have really experienced. Moreover, I was getting more and more excited about everything I had to do. The lesser days also felt different than before the sessions, as if they had a certain function. Namely, in my inner dialogue, I noticed that I was searching for solutions in a constructive way, thereby mapping out a route away from the downward spiral.
I was really looking forward to session 4, but this session felt less intense than the previous three. Afterwards, I doubted whether it "worked" or whether my expectations might have been too high. However, one or two mornings later I was washing dishes with music on from my adolescence, and then it happened. I felt a huge jolt of energy flow into my system and suddenly felt incredibly powerful. Overwhelmed with emotion, I began to cry; it was an experience that I could not comprehend and is otherwise difficult to describe, but really confirmed to me that everything I was doing made sense.
The sessions have a kind of continuing effect, I have noticed, similar to a computer program running in the background running various processes.
The last session with Fay was a very different one, at her home, and even though she had already talked about it in quite some detail, I still didn't know exactly what to expect. We began by discussing how I was doing, which was surprisingly delightful to tell, since I normally hated that question because of my bad moods. Then we went over my vision board (my “homework”) after which she went a few more times into certain aspects, as we did in the other sessions. As she gave instructions, I caught something about seeing images, but my mind was distracted because I was worried about my coffee breath (because we were going to work with breathing techniques). Fay picked up my concerns and assured me that I didn't need to worry about that.
Using breathing techniques, she put me into a kind of trance and I did indeed begin to see images. The journey began with the proverbial movie of my life flashing by. Despite the fact that I consider myself a pretty down-to-earth guy, my experience on that table felt supernatural. I learned a lot about, let's say, my origins. Fay not only guided me, but she also solved the problems I carried with me in my energy field and talked to me throughout the sessions channeling various information about me. As you note, I don't want to go into too much detail because it was all very personal. But when, three hours later, I woke up again, I felt reborn. As if I had reset and said goodbye to my old self.
Afterwards, I needed some time to recover and realize all that had just happened. Fortunately she gave me that time. In the follow-up conversation, Fay mentioned a few details that showed that she had picked up things of my "trip," which was a little freaky but at the same time very nice and affirming.
For the rest of that day, I decided to take it easy, which was also necessary to get my feet back on the ground for a while again. The next day I didn't do much either, another relapse day really. But by now I was used to the fact that the day after a session is always a down day. This dip lasted a few days, however, but after that I actually got into an upward spiral (yes, apparently that exists too!).
It has now been ten days since my last session, and I am now living my life nicely. I look back with a very good feeling back on the whole journey I took with Fay in a short time. Much of what Fay discussed has come true, including the fact that the last session can still stir up some things in the following time, which you then have to deal with. But that is precisely why I think it is effective. The sessions enable me to resolve all the sticking points, and sometimes you have to go through the rough stuff to do that. What prevails, however, is wonder and a blissful feeling that I am back in control of my life, that I am functioning again.
Undoubtedly there will still be challenges that will come my way, but on my own I really could never have reached this point. I am very grateful that I met Fay, like a saving angel, at exactly the right time in my life. She sensed everything flawlessly, remained patient where desired and empathized with me. I am aware that I am not the only person who can experience life as a huge struggle, and I sincerely hope that Fay can help many people like me to a more bearable existence. Since each individual is unique, the result will be different for each person.
My advice to anyone who wants to work with Fay: go into the sessions without expectations, be as open as possible and try to go for it completely. I think this approach has really contributed positively to the results.
Fay, thank you so much for this!
Love, R. S