Hello, welcome!
Do you:
Want a more adventurous, more love-filled and more soulular life?
Suffer a mental affliction like (for example) adhd, OCD, borderline, insomnia or an eating disorder that holds you back?
Can’t let go of habits/addictions that keep you stuck in a life you resent?
Self-sabotage health, wealth, career or relationships?
Lack the power to take charge of yourself and your life?
Feel like you’ve lost your sparkle and you’ve become boring, bitter or just overall negative?
Feel like you’re in the grips of unwanted emotional states (e.g., depression, anxiety, anger)?
Grapple with phobias like social anxiety, fear of (public) speaking, fear of failure and/or attachment/intimacy issues?
Yearn for a new identity?
Want a loving relationship but you feel blocked in getting one?
Have a lot of baggage but don’t know how to start cleaning it all up?
Live inauthentically because you’re plagued by insecurities and social conditioning?
In the sessions, we will:
❤️ Resolve your (mental, emotional, behavioural) issue;
❤️ Take back your power from the circumstances, people and habits you lost it to;
❤️ Shift your identity to match your aspirations;
❤️ Elevate your life experience;
❤️ Manifest your vision board;
❤️ Open a portal to a new existence for you.
❤️ Reconnect you with your authentic self and inner wisdom;
❤️ Process and accept your past and let it go;
❤️ Make you feel more confident, happy, free and at ease;
❤️ Create a lot more mental-emotional space in you;
❤️ Re-install your zest for life;
❤️ Take off your mask so you can experience real joy again;
Hello I’m Fay, and I’m here to hold your hand while we process your lows, uproot and integrate your darkness, and let go of your attachments. By dealing together with your challenges we will transform what you now see as ‘negative’ into wisdom, power and maturity.
But I’m also here to upgrade an already okay-ish psychology to an elevated life experience. We will take out the small every day annoyances that unnecessarily take up your mental-emotional space, move from the head into the heart, discover an inspiring new path for you and push you towards the exciting Unknown. We will get you your fire and sparkle back and with that, your zest for life.
My Method
Unraveling internal problems is a true process of discovering and pulling out all the relevant weeds. This is how I go about it:
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To successfully heal, we must first determine how healing looks like for you. Thus we determine the healing goal during the discovery call. Then I will sense how to best go about tackling your issue and propose what I have in mind, so you can decide whether I'm the right healer for you.
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At the beginning of each session I ask a series of short questions to determine your known blocks. As you talk, more information comes to me intuitively which I add to whatever you tell me.
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To get out of the mind and into the body, time is carved out (+/- 10 mins) for exercises to switch off the ruminating brain and let go of restlessness in the body.
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Sessions are focused on externalisation of character parts, events, emotions and thoughts and then experiencing and feeling them. Not on analysis.
In the sessions you will also be called to ‘discharge’ whatever is inside of you: you will be given the space to say whatever is on your mind (unfiltered talking) about particular topics. The result will probably be a huge stream of everything repressed that after discharge will seem to magically disappear :) Don’t be afraid of your darkness/ insecurities. When they come to light, you will see they only wanted to be acknowledged. And just by doing that, they will automatically stop running you.
During the sessions I pick up blocking energies and emotions , and process them or alchemize them for you if, for whatever reason, that cannot happen within you (for example because an event was too traumatic for you).
The sessions are active but if for whatever reason your health doesn’t allow this, we’ll adjust the techniques or I will take over bigger chunks of your process.
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The main goal is to make peace with everything inside of you. To get there, I will have you say certain things out loud, like ‘I love you’ to certain parts of yourself. If this gives you ‘the icks’, don’t worry, it’s understandable. But when you see that it works, resistance will lower. Results over ego.
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I like to reserve a part of the last session of a trajectory for focusing on a desired future for you. You will make a vision board and I will clear away your internal blocks to getting the life you want.
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During the last part of the last session we will recap everything that shifted through a series of questions and complete the identity transformation.
Where I can be of special assistance ❤️
Difficulty accessing your emotions?
Then I can access the emotions for you. This way the emotion is processed and let go of, just not by you in that moment. This does not prevent that you might feel a bit down the day, or days, after the session. We will, however, aim to restore your feeling abilities, as they are key to getting back in touch with your aliveness.
Your ego gets in the way of receiving healing?
Well that definitely used to be me, so I can relate! Being judgmental of a healer or thinking ‘you’re special and nothing works for you’ is just resistance to vulnerability that prevents healing. If you allow me, I can take over your process energetically and remove your negativity and resistance so you feel lighter. This will take 10-30 minutes of you and me ‘boiling’ together in these energies, while I take them away. The only precondition is: you must want the transformation.
You have blocked out / can’t remember your past?
If you don’t remember your past well, I can tap into the version you were at a certain age and narrate what I feel and see. This can act as a prompt for finding forgotten causes for the issue at hand.
Do you sense an issue might not have a logical cause?
Just to clarify: an issue with a logical cause would be an issue that is created because of something that happened in the memorable past (1+1=2). But that might not always be the case. Life is very mysterious. Do not disregard the impact of energetic entanglements, past lives and ancestral heritage. Don’t worry, you don’t have to believe in these things for the sessions to be effective, nor am I going to try and convince you. They just pop up if they are key to healing.
Expectations 👑
Work with me if:
You sincerely want to get better;
You are ready for transformation;
You prefer solving an issue, instead of talking about it and analyzing it over and over;
You want to tackle an issue at all levels (energetic, spiritual, mental, emotional, physical, behavioural).
Not for you right now if:
You don’t have the space in your calendar the upcoming 5-10 weeks (in case of a trajectory);
You don’t have access to food and shelter and are surrounded by unsafe people. If this is the case, please harness all your energy to get yourself out of this critical condition. Sending you power!
You are not ready to let go of an issue as remaining unhealed provides some kind of benefit to you. No judgement - I also didn’t want to heal my eating disorder when it kept me thin. So I can relate. But wanting the potential change is necessary for transformation to happen.
What healing is:
Becoming your unique self;
‘Graduating’ the psychological issue you’ve identified with and dropping the label (e.g., ‘anxious’, ‘adhd’er’ or ‘depressed’);
Feeling more happy, stable, free and confident;
Things that used to bother you and disturb your peace now seem silly and unimportant;
Feeling empowered, ‘light’, ‘young’ and mature at the same time;
Experiencing a (huge) increase in vitality, inspiration and motivation;
Regaining curiosity and wonder;
Creating your life, instead of being at the cause of it.
What healing is not:
Becoming socially acceptable (authenticity doesn’t necessarily mean ‘being or doing what the group loves’. But you will get comfortable strongly attracting what’s meant for you and strongly repelling what is not);
Becoming an ‘angel that spreads joy 24/7’ (authenticity means you embody all emotions and aspects of yourself, light and dark, ‘masculine’ and ‘feminine’, with no resistance);
Never facing a challenge again (you are human; challenges are weaved into the web of life, they make you grow and develop).